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When was the last time you changed your prices? Or even reviewed your pricing structure? If it has been more than 6 months... you definitely want to read this blog post! I'll be sharing the 5 most common signs that I see that are telling you (screaming at you??) that it's time to take a good look at your pricing.
Because better pricing?
Yep, that means more money... but it ALSO can mean attracting the RIGHT clients... getting paid your WORTH and working LESS.
Have a read...
Let's talk about money shall we?
I'm declaring July to be Money Month! I'll be digging deep on the topics of money, motherhood and mindset and how they all intermingle.
This week on the blog I am sharing 3 key money mindset blocks that could be stunting your business (and personal!) growth.
Have a read and see if any of them resonate with you.
Money. Money. Money.
Would you like to be making more money from your business?
The answer, is in all likelihood: yes and no.
Surprised by that?
I’ll explain in a minute.
But first, let me ask you something.
Well, if we push aside any limiting beliefs about money for a sec…
You know, the “money is the root of all evil” crap and the likes…
And just admit for a second, unapologetically, that some more money around here would be quite nice, thank you very much.
Then really, what more money boils down to for you I’m betting is:
>> Financial freedom to say yes to more things that make life great for you and your family.(Spa days, nice clothes, great meals out, adventure and travel. All that lovely stuff.)
>> Time freedom to feel more relaxed with your schedule, more able to fit in the things that are important to you, less chained to the hamster wheel of life.
(Time for yourself, time with your husband, time with your kids, time with your friends).
Which in fact, all translates to:
So now that we’ve established WHY you might want to be making more money…
And what you can do about it.
In this post I’ll be covering:
1 // Pricing
2 // Sales & Selling
3 // Revenue Streams
4 // Tech
5 // Possibly the most surprising reason of all (told you I’d get to that point)
If that has intrigued you, read on my love.
One seemingly straightforward and simple reason you might not be making more money is your pricing.
I say simple.
Because, sure it seems logical that if you just raise your prices, you’ll increase your income.
But it isn’t quite that simple, is it?
Did my suggestion of raising your prices make you squirm just a little?
If so, don’t worry, you are not alone in that.
So although it sounds simple on the surface...
Really, a whole lot of fear and anxiety often comes screeching in as soon as we consider raising our prices.
If I raise my prices, no one will buy
Who do I think I am to be charging that much
What if people think my work isn’t worth those prices
Those are all your mind lying to you, btw.
In other words: they are limiting beliefs.
Things that your brain thinks, which hold you back.
The thing with pricing, you see, is that it is forever tied to your money mindset.
So if your money mindset isn’t in great shape…
By which I mean, you’re not fully friends with money, feeling completely confident and comfortable in making it, charging people for the work you do, spending it, etc…
Then your pricing is likely to be off.
I.e. too low.
Because your limiting beliefs about money and also about what you believe is possible for you have influenced your pricing.
What is the solution? Well, to first of all work on your money mindset.
Get in tune with the limiting beliefs you hold around money. All those negative stories about money you have been - quite possibly unconsciously - toting around with you.
See them, then dismantle them. Break them down and see them for what they are:
Just a thought you keep thinking, not fact.
Then come up with some new, more empowering money stories and adopt those.
Once you’ve started to mend your relationship with money…
Then work on bolstering your self-confidence and your sense of value in the work you do.
Because when you have a healthier relationship with money AND you feel confident about the true value your work provides to your customers or clients...
Then pricing becomes SO much easier.
Then you can really charge your worth.
Another reason that you might not be making more money…
And I apologise in advance as I’m not going to sugar-coat this…
Is that you suck at selling.
If you don’t feel comfortable with selling, then you’re leaving money on the table.
And there are two ways that you might be losing out on sales.
We’ll get to those in just a sec.
But first it’s time to let go of the feelings like,
I’m not a natural born salesperson
I just don’t like selling, it feels awkward to me
I’m worried about seeming too pushy
None of those, are in fact valid.
Selling is simply giving someone the chance for you to help them.
Help them with something they already need or want, that is.
When you fully take that on board…
Selling and sales become infinitely easier, right?
But I completely understand if this one blog post, with only a fraction of its content dedicated to sales and selling, has not yet made you feel super confident at selling.
So back to the two ways that you might be losing sales…
They are, quite simply:
1 // You aren’t asking for the sale often enough
2 // You aren’t great at converting potential clients into paying clients.
The good news?
It is actually easier than you might think to remedy both of these.
So let’s get straight to it:
1 // Start selling more often
What do I mean by this?
Well take a look at your sales activities.
Things like sales conversations, following up with warm leads, sales based social media posts, calls to action in blogs.
Selling should be happening in AT LEAST one of these areas every day in your business.
Because businesses are based on sales, right?
So have a look at what you’ve been doing and see if you can up your game and sell more often.
2 // Get better at converting
I am amazing at converting.
I tell you this not to boast, but to tell you what’s possible.
Make no mistake, I used to SUCK at selling.
I would feel nervous, I would avoid it, I would forget what I wanted to say.
Unsurprisingly, people don’t want to buy from a mumbling figgety woman who doesn’t seem to have confidence in her services.
I learned that the hard way!
You don’t have to.
Getting great at converting does NOT mean learning salesy tactics (ewww).
It means getting better at listening.
It means staying connected to the value of what you provide.
It means chilling the eff out a bit in sales situations.
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Do you know what the friend of the business owning Mama is?
The clue is kind of in the title of this section…
While you’re thinking about that, let me ask you something else:
How many revenue streams do you have?
One? Two? Three?
I have six currently.
And only 3 of them involve trading hours for pounds (or maybe dollars where you are?).
Why do I have 6?
Because I have built my business intentionally to:
>> Support me financially even when I take time off
>> Allow me to scale my business without increasing my hours
Essential if, like me, you cherish spending lots of time with your kids.
So back to the answer of that question…
The best friend of the business owning Mama is [drum roll]
Three of my 6 income streams are passive.
They took some time to set up, sure.
They require some marketing from time to time, yes.
But other than that, sales can just roll in without me lifting a finger.
Without me being awake sometimes even.
Now doesn’t THAT sound great?
Therefore, one reason you aren’t making more money is that maybe you’re maxed out in terms of the hours you’re spending in your business and you feel like you’ve hit a ceiling and can’t therefore make any more money, unless you increase your hours.
If that’s you then….
Have a think about how you can introduce a passive income stream into your business.
Brainstorm some ideas.
Pick one and implement it.
Then drive a load of traffic to it to see how well it converts (i.e. of the number of people who visit your sales page, how many actually buy?).
Then tweak the whole process so that it’s converting at a rate you’re happy with.
THEN consider throwing some paid traffic at it (e.g. Facebook Ads).
That right there, is scalable passive income.
I’ll let you into a little secret.
My private coaching clients come to me for all manner of reasons, but essentially they are all after one thing: a business that is...
(i.e. fun to run and involves them spending the majority of their time doing what they love)
(i.e. they have plenty of time for themselves and their families, they can take big chunks of time off without the whole thing going down the pan. Hello passive income and automation!)
(i.e. they just want to be making decent money and doing that consistently)
But here’s the secret…
Although they know I’m going to help them with ALL of those things (oh plus, you know, general success coaching, confidence boosting and money mindset block busting)...
The thing that often is the cherry on the cake for them...
Why is this relevant to you?
Well, the only reason I built this in as an additional feature of my private coaching…
Is because I was seeing tech block after tech block with the ladies I was talking to and working with.
Fear of tech.
It’s a real thing.
In fact, when I mentioned passive income and automation above, did you think: that sounds hard?
Knowing how to connect all the moving parts of say, a funnel, together can seem like some tricky, shrouded in mystery thing.
Better to not bother trying then.
Can you relate?
If so, don’t worry my love, you’re definitely not alone. But know that your resistance to tech is likely getting in the way of you making more money (in great and easy ways, I might add).
If not, and you’re down with the tech then…[techy fist bump] and skip to the next point.
If fear of tech is standing between you and more money, then you have some options:
1 // Hire someone to do it for you
2 // Enrol on a course that will teach you
3 // Dig into YouTube videos and the like and teach yourself
4 // Work with a coach who can make the tech side simple to understand so you can feel confident doing these things for yourself
5 // Do nothing and leave money on the table ;-)
We got there…
The reason which might most surprise you as to why you aren’t making more money.
In fact, this might be the very thing underlying some of the other reasons above.
You don’t really want to.
There, I said it.
This can be a tough one to accept sometimes.
And I don’t mean it in any kind of judgemental way or that you’re not trying.
But sometimes -
Like deep, deep, DEEP down.
Afraid of earning more money.
Afraid of success.
Why on EARTH might someone - maybe even you - be afraid of success?
Because we have all sorts of ideas about what it will COST us to earn more…
All that jazz.
And we worry about what we might become…
All those things up there? ^^^
Yeah, those are limiting beliefs.
They hold you back. Keep you from leading the MOST kick ass life.
The one you were born to lead, btw.
Even if you don’t (yet) believe it.
You may have heard me say this before…
It bears repeating:
Shine a light on those fears, my love. Be brave.
When you get 100% honest about your deepest, darkest fears about what earning more money will mean…
When you look at those gremlins in the cold light of day.
You can see them for what they really are: lies.
And then you can set about dismantling them and slotting some much healthier beliefs about money and your ability to earn it, in their place.
Hurrah! Wealthy Mama fist bumps all round :)
Well, maybe you’d be interested to know that helping mothers with online business to make more money - with ease not overwhelm, I might add - is easily one of my favourite things in the world ever.
I consider it a kind of superpower.
[check out my cape, lol]
**SPOILER ALERT** I won’t, in fact, rescue you. I’ll support you, guide you, and give you the tools to rescue yourself. Which you can totally do. Because I got your back.
But that’s just detail.
The fact of the matter is I can help you to grow your income, without increasing your hours. I can take out the guesswork.
Now, doesn’t THAT sound like a relief?
If you think so, book yourself a FREE Discovery Call. I’ll ask you about where you’re at in your business, where you want to go and what might be keeping you stuck.
You’ll get the chance to ask me the questions you have about what’s possible for you and your business and what I do and how I help my clients.
And if that’s all going swimmingly, and we feel like we might be a match made in heaven for making you more money… then we’ll chat about what working together might look like and which of my packages might best support you in achieving your goals and desires.
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Just ONE mental shift Cori? You may well ask.
Well, if you’ve been round these parts for long enough, you’ll know that I happen to believe - well really, I know - that success hinges almost entirely on your mindset.
So in fact, getting to your vision of success, feeling successful, is really a series of mental shifts.
But let’s start with one important one today, shall we?
It’s a biggun.
And I’ll tell you what it is in just a sec.
But first I want to tell you about my Netflix rule.
Stay with me, it’s totally relevant. Promise.
So when I very first started working from home, back in the early days of my business. Well, before I’d even launched to be precise…
My husband asked how I was finding it, working from home.
“Do you find it easy to be productive? Don’t you get distracted by other stuff?” he asked.
“No”, I replied with a self-satisfied smile.
“I have a NO NETFLIX IN THE DAYTIME rule” was my proud declaration.
In fact, I told several people about this rule. Feeling pleased with my self-discipline.
Have you heard me talk about self-signalling before?
If not, in a nutshell it means the little messages your behaviour sends your brain which reinforce what you think about yourself.
So why was this harmful?
Well, by creating this RULE, I was telling myself that I needed a rule.
That I couldn’t be trusted to watch Netflix in the day.
That if I dared fire it up over lunch say, then I would be doomed to an unproductive afternoon sprawled on the sofa, passively consuming episode after episode of Gilmore Girls, achieving nothing.
That my business would never get off the ground.
That I would surely succumb to being an unemployed telly-addict, if it weren’t for the RULE.
The clue was in that story.
Yep, that’s right: trust.
Let me ask you a question.
Do you trust yourself fully?
Maybe there is an implicit assumption that we do.
But scratch the surface and often we find a very different situation.
As I just demonstrated with my Netflix rule.
The thing is, how much you trust yourself directly relates to how quickly you will achieve your vision of success.
And I’m speaking as a person who hasn’t always trusted herself, so I know.
Because little signals of self-mistrust accumulate a compound effect over time.
They corrode our self-believe.
So let’s just take a look at why trust is so important.
Want to own a successful business (whatever success means to you)?
Then you KNOW you need to get good at making decisions.
By which I do NOT mean always making the right ones.
But making them fast.
I’m not saying start deciding stuff all over the place with reckless abandon. Or not bothering to make an informed decision.
But decide you must.
Procrastination is one of the 3 P’s of Peril as I call them. It does you NO service.
And really, at the root of a propensity to procrastinate is a fear. Fear of making the wrong decision.
Where TRUST comes in, is in trusting yourself to make decisions.
Trusting yourself to make the decision as best you can with the information you have at the time.
AND - this is the critical one - trusting yourself to figure it out if the decision you made turns out to have been the wrong one.
THAT is the trust that will keep you moving forward, keep you on the path to success.
Want to know the only real differences between you and someone you admire as being successful according to your definition of success?
1 // They believed it was possible for them and held on to that belief
2 // They took consistent action
Now don’t be mistaken that the consistent action has to be massive action, all hard work and effort. Most of the time, in the case of those who have achieved success in a healthy way (i.e. without burnout and massive stress), the actions which were most critical to their success were small, but - and here’s the key - CONSISTENTLY applied things.
Things like committing to performing at least one sales activity. Every single day.
Or like journaling and visualising success. Every single day.
Here’s the thing with trusting yourself.
If you feel like you have put RULES in place for yourself to achieve what you want to achieve - aka cultivating that consistency - then you aren’t trusting yourself.
And if you aren’t trusting yourself, you are telling yourself you aren’t trust-WORTHY.
There’s that worthiness thing again, did you see?
And the thing is, we tend to live up to our own expectations.
So if you don’t EXPECT yourself to show up and do those small but consistent things that will help your chances of success…
If you tell yourself you NEED rules otherwise you’ll self-sabotage...
Because you aren’t WORTHY of the trust required to just *know* you’ll do what is required…
Then you’re telling yourself that you are inherently an untrustworthy self-sabotager who doesn’t have your own interests at heart.
And that is exactly how your behaviour will pan out.
On the flip side…
If you TRUST yourself enough to listen to your inner guidance. That part of you that KNOWS what is good for you.
If you do that, then being consistent won’t be so “hard”. You will just trust yourself to become the sort of person who takes that consistent action.
Can you see how much EASIER that makes things?
Which leads me to...
Hopefully you know me well enough by now to know that I don’t believe success has to be hard or difficult or complicated. It should NOT be an uphill struggle.
Fun? Even better.
So here’s the marvellous thing:
When you can TRUST yourself to do what is in your business and your own best interest.
You get to let go of the rules. The structure. The rigidity.
You can RELAX.
And guess what else?
When you relax like that, because you are trusting yourself, rather than policing yourself and wondering when you’re going to f*ck this whole thing up.
When you realise that actually, you CAN’T even f*ck this up.
Because you aren’t wasting an enormous amount of energy and focus on worry and fear (which are the roots of that mistrust, right?). Life feels easier, more fun.
You can use that extra energy and focus to hone in on working SMARTER not harder in your business.
And it all snowballs in the most beautiful way from there.
Let’s Return to The Netflix Story Shall We?
So back to Netflix.
Because I still work largely from home.
And I no longer have that RULE.
So now what?
Well, now I trust myself.
I trust myself not to go down the back-to-back-episode rabbit hole day after day, laying waste to my business.
I trust myself because I know how to listen to my instinct. My intuition. My inner guidance. Inner being. Call it what you want, you know what I’m referring to, right?
Because of this, if I feel inclined to watch some Netflix in the day I can tune straight in to that inner place and know that…
… maybe I have been working hard and need 30 minutes or so of light relief to give my brain some downtime
… maybe watching an episode of something uplifting would just FEEL GOOD
… maybe I am indeed feeling like laying horizontal on the sofa and watching Gilmore Girls all day… and maybe I NEED that because I am in fact a little run down and taking that time to rest would help me.
Those are legit reasons for watching Netflix in the day.
Without the RULE, I can listen to what is good for me. I can trust my decision to watch or not watch as I see fit.
And, in fact, most of the time I am too busy loving life and biz to even give the fact that Netflix is an option a thought.
Over To You
I’d love you to think about rules you have been imposing on yourself.
Or maybe you don’t have rules, but a lack of trust in yourself has been showing up as an avoidance of something altogether.
Whatever the case, start by noticing when this mistrust pops up.
Examine the fear underneath it.
See if you can re-frame that fear as something positive and more supportive.
See if you can start demonstrating trustworthy behaviour in that space to yourself.
Because - trust me (sorry, couldn’t resist) - you’ll find your path to success SOOOOO much easier if you do.
Are you feeling stuck in your business, success always feeling out of reach? Or maybe you aren’t even connected to what your own vision of success might be? Or perhaps you like the idea of cultivating a deeper trust in yourself to help your path to success but don’t know where to start?
These are all things that I can support you with (and more!) as a Success Coach.
Book yourself a FREE Discovery Call and we can chat about what’s keeping you from success and how I might be able to support you in getting there.
I don’t want to make you feel like it is something you “should” be doing but maybe aren’t, therefore you’re failing.
What I do want to do, is talk about why spending time on personal growth has been important to me. Why I’m an advocate.
And to help you find ways to work it into your busy life in a way that is realistic for you…
...IF it is something you’re interested in, you will enjoy.
First things first,
Well, to me, personal growth is any way that I feel like I am expanding. Expanding my knowledge, expanding spiritually.
Just hopefully not expanding my waistline, lol.
So it doesn’t have to mean self help books with cringey titles (and in fact, while we’re on that point, so-called self-help books are WAY more cool than that now… check out You Are A Badass as an example).
Yes, it could be about working on yourself in some way. But that also includes just general learning. Learning something that interests you, whatever that may be.
It also includes CLARITY.
What do I mean by this? Well, in a nutshell: realising stuff. Stuff about yourself, about the things that are maybe holding you back, about that pesky negative self talk, about the stuff that makes you squirm.
It means noticing them and then trying to do something about them.
So all of this combined, is what I mean when I refer to personal growth.
Not doing it all at once - exhausting! - but for me, I just have a general, loose intention to be noticing and making the most of, opportunities to grow.
To grow as a business owner, mother, woman, just as a human being in general.
The great thing about it, regardless of whether you are learning marketing strategy or kundalini yoga; whether you are working on your relationships or working on your limiting beliefs; it will ALL (I really mean ALL), help your business.
Quite a bold claim, right?
But hear me out.
Spending time on something - anything - that gives you a feeling of growth, makes you happier.
When you’re happy, your business is happy.
Because you show up as the best version of you, you have more to give, you are more open to innovation and creativity.
All that good stuff.
When you aren’t learning, aren’t growing, you're not going anywhere. You’re staying stuck, staying the same.
And I believe that as humans we are made to learn, to grow, to continuously evolve.
So doing something that makes us feel like we are growing, gives us a sense of momentum, which can propel us towards our vision of success.
Not to mention that you might learn some things that directly relate to and positively impact your business.
Fair enough, but how do I find time for that?
Ahhh time. We are busy Mama’s after all, doing the whole family + biz juggle right.
And really though, the key is there: wanting.
If you WANT to find time for personal development, you will.
But you also have to believe you are WORTHY of spending that time on yourself. And perhaps even investing, depending on the kind of development you’re after.
As I mentioned in this post, I see personal development as an aspect of self-care. As a way of looking after yourself, as setting yourself up for success.
Spending time on self-care is a really great way of signalling to yourself that you are worthy. Worthy of time, of investment. This will only increase your self-believe and set you up for success.
Anyway, back to time though.
Don’t have enough time?
Perhaps you need to work on your Time Mindset. It’s totally a thing, btw.
Want to find out more? Head over to my FB Group - Self Made Mothers - and join if you haven’t already. Once you’re a member, watch this video on exactly that topic. I think you’re going to love it.
Ok, maybe you’re sold on why personal growth is important.
It’s something you want to do.
You’ve addressed your Time Mindset.
Now let’s talk about some practical tips - hacks even - to really make it happen.
First things first, think about how YOU like to digest content.
For example, since I’ve had my daughter, I am rubbish at reading physical books. I used to be a voracious reader and now, I just get distracted or fall asleep.
So for me, audio books are my friend. They were a total game-changer for me when I discovered them.
The point is, go after the type of content you find most engagement to give yourself the best chance of sticking with it.
I’ve shared this hack before, but it is a WINNER for the busy Mama.
It is also an excellent way of cultivating a new habit.
Basically you tie your new habit (in this case, personal growth) to an existing habit.
You get the idea.
You know that saying, “if it isn’t in your calendar, it isn’t in your life”?
It’s true, right?
So if you’re struggling to find time for personal growth literally block some time out in your diary.
This is especially effective for the type of personal growth that doesn’t come in a small digestible chunk of content that can be married to another habit as above.
For example, if you’ve been struggling with something and need to seek some more tailored help or support, schedule it in. Stop putting it off. You will feel so much lighter when you tackle that thing, whatever it may be.
For me this looked like enrolling myself on a Stress Management course when I was still working in the corporate world. Or more recently has meant, working with an RTT therapist to get to the bottom of the subconscious link to the headaches that were plaguing me. Or my weekly sessions with my coach.
All different ways that I am committed to working on myself, to learning, growing and well, just making life better and easier for myself.
Your future self will thank you for it, I promise.
Following on from this last point, we can grow much quicker often with the support of someone else.
That could mean a supportive loved one, friend, mentor or more professional help like a therapist, coach etc.
I was reminded of just how valuable such support can be a couple of weeks ago. I was struggling with something in my business, with it just feeling kind of hard. And as you know, I’m all about business being easy.
It was a huge realisation for me. It meant that I was supported in both seeing what the REAL issue was (which could well have taken me YEARS to realise on my own), but also giving myself the permission to just outright STOP the thing that had been zapping my energy in my business.
That single coaching call saved me SO MUCH time, stress, money even. Of course I recognise this in the work I do with my clients, but being on the receiving end really brought it home to me that THIS is the shortcut I am paying for.
I would have been spinning my wheels in my business, trudging on and possibly even eventually feeling disillusioned with the whole thing, had I not this support on hand.
You can’t support yourself.
We all need people around us, supporting us in our personal growth, so that we can support our business in its growth.
Well, that pretty much sums it up for today my love.
Pat on the back!
I hope I have inspired you to think about being more intentional about factoring personal development into your life for the many benefits it will bring you.
And I hope that you are feeling more empowered to know that you are worth the investment (time and/or money) involved in making it happen.
As usual, I would LOVE to know one way that you are going to be introducing a personal development habit into your life. Head over to Self Made Mothers and let me know.
Would you like some support in your business? Would it feel great to have someone supporting you on your path to success? To have someone helping you find the way to achieve YOUR vision of success on YOUR terms?
Schedule in a FREE Discovery Call with me and we can chat about how you might be feeling stuck, unable to hit consistent income months or feeling at a loss as to how to make your vision of success reality. I’ll listen, I’ll ask you some questions and we can chat about how I might be able to support you.
Self-care is somewhat of a buzzword right now.
I am personally a HUGE fan of self-care.
There is the other aspect of self-care that is less popular. The unsexy side of self-care if you will.
I am all about helping you to make it as easy as possible for you to achieve your vision of success on your terms. And while the more standard view of self-care is definitely part of that (I don’t think it has escaped you that I am MASSIVELY convinced of the power of daily mindset work), I want to talk to you about the other side.
The often forgotten activities that ARE part of looking after yourself.
Taking care of these somewhat surprising self-care activities, making them part of your daily/weekly routine, building them into your business even, will help keep you on the path to success.
Maybe you got fobbed off by your doctor one too many times (just me?!) so stopped going for the small stuff.
Maybe you’re anxious about things like smear tests or breast exams so avoid thinking about them, booking them.
I think this is a common one for us mothers. With so much to consider/worry about for our kids and their health, it is easy for ours to take a back burner.
By not immediately dealing with a health complaint, something being kind of off, an ache or pain… By not scheduling health check ups, smears, dentist appointments and the like…
You’re doing some powerful self-signalling. You’re telling yourself you aren’t worthy. That your health isn’t a priority. And that’s some dangerous territory as it just further feeds any other feelings of unworthiness you might be harbouring.
The “I can’t afford it”s or the “I don’t have time”s. Rubbish. Both are choices. You can choose to afford it. You can choose to make time.
Make your health a priority. Make feeling great, without any niggles, aches and pains, a priority.
If you do, your business - and family! - will thank you. Because guess what? Both need you in tip top condition.
Have you been burying your head in the sand?
So easily done. I have totally been there [raises hand].
I used to avoid checking my bank balance like the plague. I didn’t want to face the cold hard facts.
Guess what? That didn’t work out so well. Ignoring my bank balance definitely didn’t do anything to improve it.
If you’ve been avoiding talking a long hard look at your financial situation, let me ask you something:
Well, rather than kick yourself for it, just make a decision. Decide that today is the first day of a new financial future.
If you don’t feel like you are great with your money: educate yourself. Mend your relationship with money (get on the waitlist for Manifest Like A Mother ™ which will help you do exactly that, if you like). Find out everything you need to know about managing your money smarter.
Then start setting some financial goals and tracking your progress against them. As the saying goes “what you focus on expands”. So your financial situation will never improve if you keep that head firmly planted in the sand. Come up for air, and start paying attention to your money and soon you will be amazed at the change.
Do you have legal protections in your business? Contracts, terms of purchase and the likes? Do you have business insurance, personal liability insurance?
This is definitely one of the unsexier sides of self-care but it is so so soooo important (maybe even warrants a fourth “so”).
One of the very first investments I made in my business was getting my contracts drawn up. Second after that: liability insurance.
As lovely as the vast majority of people are, don’t stake your whole business on the honesty, integrity and ethics of others. Do the smart thing and make sure you are protected.
Please don’t scrimp in this area. If ever there was a place to invest wisely in your business, this is it. No cobbling together something you think “will do”. Pay for sound legal advice and act on it.
I constantly put off certain life admin in favour of working on my business, spending time with my daughter or general down time.
The result was a mounting To Do list that was cluttering my mind and giving me a feeling of being overwhelmed even when my business was ticking over quite nicely.
Alternatively, you might be finding time for business and the life admin but at the cost of your own downtime. Either way, we need to find a way of fitting it all in.
I have overcome this by building in small pockets of Life Admin time into my BUSINESS DAY. This has been the best way for me to ensure things get done.
Know what else I did? I made a list of the kind of life admin activities I was typically doing and got out my machete. Ok, so a pen, but you get the idea.
I went through each item and asked: what would happen if I NEVER did this again? I got super honest with myself.
One of those activities? Thank you cards. Now before you throw something at me for being an ungrateful b*tch, let me explain. First, there was finding time to buy cards, then the ongoing hassling of my daughter to write them out, then remembering to take the bloody things when we were seeing the gift givers in question. I’ve been known to find written and sealed thank you cards in a handbag or floating around the car MONTHS after the associated birthday or christmas. Shocking.
So now we do video thank yous. We have fun recording them. We send them immediately. DONE. One less painful thing on my life admin list.
Then I took a second pass at the list. I picked off a large handful and made them my husband’s responsibility.
We think they won’t want to do it. Won’t do it right. Just won’t do it at all.
Well, time to get over that. Pick the ones you can most easily delegate and then delegate away.
Turns out, my husband is better at ironing my daughter’s school uniform than I am. Happy days.
And lastly, I went through the list and figured out if I could pay for someone to take care of any of these things or somehow pay for a service that made them easier.
The remaining list was much more manageable. And I just knock the priortiy ones off in my small pockets of built-in time.
OK, so mindset work is a great way of maintaining a sunny disposition and setting you up for success.
But your mental health can go beyond that. Sometimes there are things that a journaling session or spot of meditation just won’t fix.
In the same way that I urged you to priortise your health, I would love to encourage you to do the same with your mental health. Don’t put it off. Don’t tell yourself excuses about how you can’t afford it or don’t have time.
See a professional. Find someone to help. Feel great about investing in yourself in this way.
Prioritising yourself in this way is a great way of modelling positive behaviour to your kids too if they are old enough for a chat about it.
This can take on many forms but I think an essential part of taking care of yourself is tending to your own growth. That means setting aside regular time for it and allowing yourself to enjoy it.
Only you can decide which part of yourself you want to work on, and it isn’t about fixing yourself as such but more of giving yourself some space to evaluate the way things are and how you would like to change. Changes could be small or large but can be anything that you think will ultimately make you happier or otherwise empower you to lead your fullest life.
As an example, an area I am currently working on is my propensity to be a people pleaser. I don’t feel like this is something I want to “fix” as I honour this feeling and know it comes from a well-intentioned part of me. But I am giving myself permission - and the time - to work on seeking more validation from within, noticing when my need to please gets triggered and finding better ways to respond.
As growing is what life's all about. When we are stuck, unchanging, we stagnate. Life becomes dull.
Committing to your personal development is a great way of self-signalling that you are worthy of the time investment involved and any financial investment that comes with it.
Not only that, committing to your growth will help you to remember that this is all a path, we are never supposed to be “done” or “complete”.
And with that, we can relax a little and stop trying to be perfect. We can stop delaying happiness until we have achieved X or become Y or obtained Z. We can ENJOY the journey, enjoy the growth.
I would love to know which of these less sexy sides of self-care has most resonated with you. Maybe one, in particular, is more notably absent in your life?
Let me know inside Self Made Mothers, I’d love to hear which one of these habits you’re excited to implement first.
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